Quotes By Dan Savage

Sometimes I talk to religious people about my column or what I do, and I ask them to, you know, read 20 or 30 of them and then come tell me that the message at the heart of every column isn't, 'Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.' In every possible sense.

Straight couples don't have to be monogamous to be married or married to be monogamous. Monogamy no more defines marriage than the presence of children does. Monogamy isn't compulsory and its absence doesn't invalidate a marriage.

I have a thick skin, but I have a heart.

The only way to get gay issues off the front pages of Canadian newspapers is to grant gay and lesbian people our full civil equality and leave it alone.

Straight people are everywhere!

I treat people who write me the way my friends and I all treat each other when we go to each other for advice, which is sometimes with supreme cruelty.

Books are magic: you never know where they're going to end up.

School is very conformist, and one of the very first conforming that goes on in preschool and kindergarten is gender.

But it doesn't matter what you're doing, it matters how you're doing it.

In an open adoption agreement, you agree to a minimum number of visits - a floor, not a ceiling. It's enforceable.

I get letters every year from women who think Valentine's Day is an empty exercise, but are ironically pretty exercised when their boyfriends neglect or forget it.

The successes of the LGBT civil rights movement and the more prominent role openly gay people are playing in the public eye has actually turned up the temperature in middle schools and high schools for queer kids.

The bullied straight kid goes home to a shoulder to cry on and support and can talk freely about his experience at school and why he's being bullied. I couldn't go home and open up to my parents.

A huge part of what animates homophobia among young people is paranoia and fear of their own capacity to be gay themselves.

I believe it's in the best interests of a child to be in a stable environment.

Every question is a hypothetical question for everyone but the person who asks it.

The mistake that straight people made was imposing the monogamous expectation on men. Men were never expected to be monogamous.

Most Americans don't care about gay marriage.

Like it or not children are being raised by gay and lesbian parents all over America - as many as 10 million children. And it does nothing to make their lives more stable and secure to attack their families, to attack their parents to prevent us from marrying each other.

One man's blasphemy doesn't override other people's free-speech rights, their freedom to publish, freedom of thought.

I don't think it's the responsibility of gays and lesbians to reinvent the family.

There are so many people out there with less shame talking about their problems.

You know, my problem is I can't say no to people, especially people who want to write me checks to do things.

You want to help gay kids, you have to reach them in middle school and high school, when they're being bullied.

I got picked on a lot, even by teachers too. I liked to listen to musicals and bake, and my homeroom teacher found out and mocked me in front of the whole class for baking.

I wouldn't say that holidays are manufactured by corporations, but they're certainly exploited and mined by them.

I wanted to be a priest when I was a kid.

Women can go on marrying and pretending that their boyfriends and husbands are Mr. Darcy or some RomCom dream man. But where's that going to get 'em? Besides divorce court?

I am not an idiot, and I'm not a Pollyanna sort of kumbaya type.

Christmas can have a real melancholy aspect, 'cause it packages itself as this idea of perfect family cohesion and love, and you're always going to come up short when you measure your personal life against the idealized personal lives that are constantly thrust in our faces, primarily by TV commercials.