Quotes By Dan Savage

Actual gay people can make many others feel uncomfortable and paranoid because they don't know and can't articulate what makes a person gay, and they worry that maybe they themselves are gay.

I think the best thing for you to do is just live your life. Live a life that's worth living, one where you do what you want to do, pursue your passions. That way, if you meet someone, they'll be joining a life that's already really good.

I think the 'South Park' guys are brilliant.

I own a lot of my house, because I'm Irish and from people who never owned anything.

A lot of people are living their lives online in much more public ways with Facebook and Twitter.

I'm allergic to dogs, so I couldn't even adopt what gay men typically adopt when they have that maternal gene.

The Bible is a radically pro-slavery document. Slave owners waved Bibles over their heads in the Civil War and justified it.

I don't think that sin and pursuing happiness are not necessarily the same thing.

When I was a kid, and I was odd, the default assumption was that I was odd, not that I was gay. Now when a kid is odd in a Greensburg, gay or straight, the default assumption is gay.

When you're young and queer and closeted, you can end up in this place where you regard your straight peers as the enemy.

I don't like to think about what school was like for me.

If what you want is a life where your homosexuality is not an issue, move, as many have done.

See, I'm a subverter at heart.

A lot of kids are bullied because of their sexual identity or expression. It's often the effeminate boys and the masculine girls, the ones who violate gender norms and expectations, who get bullied.

Preaching to the choir actually arms the choir with arguments and elevates the choir's discourse. There's a reason the right does it and does it well and triumphs.

Straight couples don't have to be monogamous to be married or married to be monogamous. Monogamy no more defines marriage than the presence of children does. Monogamy isn't compulsory and its absence doesn't invalidate a marriage.

It's going to take generations of gay people marrying before these things start to feel natural. We haven't had it long enough to remake it as our own, so it does feel like you're getting dressed up in straight drag to do it.

The only way to get gay issues off the front pages of Canadian newspapers is to grant gay and lesbian people our full civil equality and leave it alone.

I treat people who write me the way my friends and I all treat each other when we go to each other for advice, which is sometimes with supreme cruelty.

Children have a right to some stability and constancy from the adults in their lives.

To be gay is nothing to be proud of. It's in how you are gay that you have something to be proud of, considering the obstacles placed in your path if you are gay.

Men were never expected to be monogamous.

Sometimes I talk to religious people about my column or what I do, and I ask them to, you know, read 20 or 30 of them and then come tell me that the message at the heart of every column isn't, 'Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.' In every possible sense.

I get letters every year from women who think Valentine's Day is an empty exercise, but are ironically pretty exercised when their boyfriends neglect or forget it.

The bullied straight kid goes home to a shoulder to cry on and support and can talk freely about his experience at school and why he's being bullied. I couldn't go home and open up to my parents.

I have a thick skin, but I have a heart.

Straight people are everywhere!

A huge part of what animates homophobia among young people is paranoia and fear of their own capacity to be gay themselves.

School is very conformist, and one of the very first conforming that goes on in preschool and kindergarten is gender.

Books are magic: you never know where they're going to end up.